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<rss xmlns:dc="http://purl.org/dc/elements/1.1/" version="2.0"><channel><atom:link rel="hub" href="http://tumblr.superfeedr.com/" xmlns:atom="http://www.w3.org/2005/Atom"/><description>pretty classic</description><title>Imaginary Me</title><generator>Tumblr (3.0; @ellyjuniarty)</generator><link>http://ellyjuniarty.tumblr.com/</link><item><title>Hellooo</title><description>&lt;img src="http://25.media.tumblr.com/9aea49e3c1917228468e2a08f4a3998d/tumblr_mk9ma98LSF1qavz34o1_250.gif"/&gt;&lt;br/&gt;&lt;br/&gt;&lt;p&gt;Hellooo&lt;/p&gt;</description><link>http://ellyjuniarty.tumblr.com/post/46330139327</link><guid>http://ellyjuniarty.tumblr.com/post/46330139327</guid><pubDate>Tue, 26 Mar 2013 19:22:57 +0800</pubDate></item><item><title>The Making of John Mayer’s ‘Born &amp; Raised’...</title><description>&lt;iframe width="400" height="225" src="http://www.youtube.com/embed/XdfreJmK9R4?wmode=transparent&amp;autohide=1&amp;egm=0&amp;hd=1&amp;iv_load_policy=3&amp;modestbranding=1&amp;rel=0&amp;showinfo=0&amp;showsearch=0" frameborder="0" allowfullscreen&gt;&lt;/iframe&gt;&lt;br/&gt;&lt;br/&gt;&lt;p&gt;The Making of John Mayer’s ‘Born &amp; Raised’ Artwork (by &lt;a href="http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=XdfreJmK9R4&amp;feature=share"&gt;mayermusic&lt;/a&gt;)&lt;/p&gt;</description><link>http://ellyjuniarty.tumblr.com/post/44228718217</link><guid>http://ellyjuniarty.tumblr.com/post/44228718217</guid><pubDate>Fri, 01 Mar 2013 02:23:36 +0800</pubDate></item><item><title>Photo</title><description>&lt;img src="http://25.media.tumblr.com/tumblr_m4byu9m8p71r1bn80o1_500.gif"/&gt;&lt;br/&gt; &lt;br/&gt;&lt;img src="http://25.media.tumblr.com/tumblr_m4byu9m8p71r1bn80o2_500.jpg"/&gt;&lt;br/&gt; &lt;br/&gt;</description><link>http://ellyjuniarty.tumblr.com/post/37634571462</link><guid>http://ellyjuniarty.tumblr.com/post/37634571462</guid><pubDate>Mon, 10 Dec 2012 21:02:48 +0800</pubDate></item><item><title>Photo</title><description>&lt;img src="http://25.media.tumblr.com/f9cf12df67c3405b7d2ed488b14e9235/tumblr_menb7jw1551qavz34o1_500.jpg"/&gt;&lt;br/&gt;&lt;br/&gt;</description><link>http://ellyjuniarty.tumblr.com/post/37387652853</link><guid>http://ellyjuniarty.tumblr.com/post/37387652853</guid><pubDate>Fri, 07 Dec 2012 13:28:31 +0800</pubDate></item><item><title>15 Ways to Be Irresistibly Attractive



Do the right thing. –...</title><description>&lt;img src="http://25.media.tumblr.com/1c27b72c7c17bc8e4246f50d47126996/tumblr_menav24SNn1qavz34o1_400.jpg"/&gt;&lt;br/&gt;&lt;br/&gt;&lt;p&gt;&lt;em&gt;&lt;span&gt;15 Ways to Be Irresistibly Attractive&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/em&gt;&lt;/p&gt;


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&lt;div class="post_text_wrapper"&gt;&lt;ol&gt;&lt;li&gt;&lt;strong&gt;Do the right thing.&lt;/strong&gt; – Never be afraid to do what you know in your heart is right, especially if the well being of another person’s feelings is at stake. There is no punishment in the world more severe than the wounds we inflict on our soul when we do what we know is wrong.&lt;/li&gt;
&lt;li&gt;&lt;strong&gt;Stop the gossip and superficial judgments.&lt;/strong&gt; – Great minds discuss ideas, average minds discuss events, and small minds gossip about people.  Life is much too short to be lived talking about people, gossiping, and stirring up trouble that has no substance.  If you don’t understand someone, ask questions.  If you don’t agree with them, tell them.  But don’t judge them behind their back to everyone else.  &lt;/li&gt;
&lt;li&gt;&lt;strong&gt;Lift others up.&lt;/strong&gt; – If you want to lift yourself up, lift someone else up.  To be happy and free is not merely to cast off one’s chains, but to live in a waythat respects and enhances the happiness and freedom of others.  When you put faith, hope, and love together, you can nurture positive ideas, relationships, and dreams in a negative world.&lt;/li&gt;
&lt;li&gt;&lt;strong&gt;Give words of encouragement to those in need.&lt;/strong&gt; – A word of encouragement during a failure is worth more than an hour of praise after success.  We all hit a time when we lose hope and need someone to put their arms around us and say, “I’ve got you right now.  You are not facing this alone.”  Be that person when you can.&lt;/li&gt;
&lt;li&gt;&lt;strong&gt;Be positive.&lt;/strong&gt; – Think positively; speak properly; apologize rapidly; forgive quickly.  Evolve your being and inspire yourself and others.  Say it out loud, “I am sorry negativity, I have no time for you.  I have far too many positive things to do.”&lt;/li&gt;
&lt;li&gt;&lt;strong&gt;Embrace your uniqueness.&lt;/strong&gt; – If you don’t embrace your uniqueness, you will spend your entire life striving to conform to the impossibility of being someone else.  By celebrating what makes you different, rather than wasting time trying to be the same, you will discover your unique gifts that nobody else in the world has.&lt;/li&gt;
&lt;li&gt;&lt;strong&gt;Do things for fun and passion.&lt;/strong&gt; – When you stop doing things for fun and passion, you stop living and you start merely existing.  If you truly want to change your life, you must first change your mind and your actions.  Once you are ready to truly devote your time and energy to what calls to your soul, you will find your life unimaginably enriched.  &lt;/li&gt;
&lt;li&gt;&lt;strong&gt;Be gentle.&lt;/strong&gt; – When you least expect it, something great will come along – something better than you ever planned for.  Mother Nature opens millions of flowers every day without forcing the buds.  Let this be a reminder not to force anything, but to simply give beautiful things enough love and an opportunity to grow naturally.&lt;/li&gt;
&lt;li&gt;&lt;strong&gt;Drop the need to always be right.&lt;/strong&gt; – Someone else doesn’t have to be wrong for you to be right.  There are many roads to what’s right.  You cannot judge others by your own past.  They are living a different life than you.  Express your opinions freely and politely, remembering that if your purpose is to ridicule or prove others are wrong, it will only bring bitterness into the world.  Respecting the opinion of others, without judging, always carries more weight than simply being right.&lt;/li&gt;
&lt;li&gt;&lt;strong&gt;Be loyal.  Be honest.&lt;/strong&gt; – You can’t promise to love someone for the rest of their life, but you can sincerely love them for the rest of yours.  When it comes to relationships, remaining faithful is never an option, but a priority.  Loyalty and honest affection mean everything.&lt;/li&gt;
&lt;li&gt;&lt;strong&gt;Be flexible and keep an open mind.&lt;/strong&gt; – What looks like an obstacle or road block is oftentimes just life steering you in a better direction.  Be flexible and keep an open mind to all the changes that are forcing you to grow, and helping you better align yourself with your vibration and purpose.&lt;/li&gt;
&lt;li&gt;&lt;strong&gt;Believe in yourself and all that you are.&lt;/strong&gt; – Know in your heart that there is strength inside you that is greater than the challenges you face.  No one can do it for you – you have to choose to use your wings.&lt;/li&gt;
&lt;li&gt;&lt;strong&gt;Believe in your dreams.&lt;/strong&gt; – Who you hope to be someday is already a big part of who you are now.  Your dreams are real.  They do not exist in the past; they live in the present, and when you stay committed to doing what needs to be done, you carry them closer to reality as you walk through the gates of tomorrow.&lt;/li&gt;
&lt;li&gt;&lt;strong&gt;Walk the talk.&lt;/strong&gt; – You can make whatever you want out of your life, but first you have to not be afraid to try.  We all have to start with ourselves.  It is time to walk the talk.  Take the journey of making the difficult decisions and taking action.  Start removing things from your life that are taking away your happiness, and start adding things that bring joy in to your life. &lt;/li&gt;
&lt;li&gt;&lt;strong&gt;Embrace the possibilities of tomorrow. &lt;/strong&gt;– Don’t let your past dictate who you are, but let it be part of who you will become.  No regrets.  No looking back.  Just hold onto life and move forward.  We have no way of knowing what lies ahead, but that’s what makes the journey even more exciting – that’s what makes life worth living.&lt;/li&gt;
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&lt;div class="clear"&gt;&lt;/div&gt;</description><link>http://ellyjuniarty.tumblr.com/post/37387279691</link><guid>http://ellyjuniarty.tumblr.com/post/37387279691</guid><pubDate>Fri, 07 Dec 2012 13:21:01 +0800</pubDate></item><item><title>12 Things to Stop Tolerating in Your Life</title><description>&lt;p&gt;&lt;div class="MsoNormal"&gt;&lt;span&gt;&lt;img src="http://weheartit.com/entry/44151834/via/adventureshow"/&gt;1.&lt;span&gt;    &lt;/span&gt;&lt;/span&gt;&lt;span&gt;People and relationships that undermine and hurt you&lt;/span&gt;&lt;span&gt;.&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/div&gt;
&lt;div class="MsoNormal"&gt;&lt;span&gt;2.&lt;span&gt;    &lt;/span&gt;&lt;/span&gt;&lt;span&gt;Negative and critical &lt;/span&gt;&lt;span&gt;self-talk. &lt;/span&gt;&lt;/div&gt;
&lt;div class="MsoNormal"&gt;&lt;span&gt;3.&lt;span&gt;    &lt;/span&gt;&lt;/span&gt;&lt;span&gt;A cluttered and disorganized life and working space.  &lt;/span&gt;&lt;/div&gt;
&lt;div class="MsoNormal"&gt;&lt;span&gt;4.&lt;span&gt;    &lt;/span&gt;&lt;/span&gt;&lt;span&gt;Procrastinating and always running late&lt;/span&gt;&lt;span&gt;.&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/div&gt;
&lt;div class="MsoNormal"&gt;&lt;span&gt;5.&lt;span&gt;    &lt;/span&gt;&lt;/span&gt;&lt;span&gt;Pressure to conform and fit in with the crowd.&lt;/span&gt;&lt;span&gt;&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/div&gt;
&lt;div class="MsoNormal"&gt;&lt;span&gt;6.&lt;span&gt;    &lt;/span&gt;&lt;/span&gt;&lt;span&gt;An unhealthy body and lifestyle&lt;/span&gt;&lt;span&gt;. &lt;/span&gt;&lt;/div&gt;
&lt;div class="MsoNormal"&gt;&lt;span&gt;7.&lt;span&gt;    &lt;/span&gt;&lt;/span&gt;&lt;span&gt;A fear of change, or what’s new and different. (This often results in the “same old- same old”)&lt;/span&gt;&lt;span&gt;&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/div&gt;
&lt;div class="MsoNormal"&gt;&lt;span&gt;8.&lt;span&gt;    &lt;/span&gt;&lt;/span&gt;&lt;span&gt;Working too hard and not making time for things people, activities and hobbies you enjoy&lt;/span&gt;&lt;span&gt;.&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/div&gt;
&lt;div class="MsoNormal"&gt;&lt;span&gt;9.&lt;span&gt;    &lt;/span&gt;&lt;/span&gt;&lt;span&gt;Beauty ads that make you feel inadequate.&lt;/span&gt;&lt;span&gt;&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/div&gt;
&lt;div class="MsoNormal"&gt;&lt;span&gt;10.&lt;span&gt; &lt;/span&gt;&lt;/span&gt;&lt;span&gt;Accruing too much debt.&lt;/span&gt;&lt;span&gt;&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/div&gt;
&lt;div class="MsoNormal"&gt;&lt;span&gt;11.&lt;span&gt; &lt;/span&gt;&lt;/span&gt;&lt;span&gt;Dishonesty&lt;/span&gt;&lt;span&gt; – in both yourself and others. (This includes in intimate relationships as these are based on a bond of trust.)&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/div&gt;&lt;/p&gt;</description><link>http://ellyjuniarty.tumblr.com/post/36370451376</link><guid>http://ellyjuniarty.tumblr.com/post/36370451376</guid><pubDate>Sat, 24 Nov 2012 03:53:25 +0800</pubDate></item><item><title>Photo</title><description>&lt;img src="http://24.media.tumblr.com/tumblr_mccd1ffLi51qavz34o1_500.jpg"/&gt;&lt;br/&gt;&lt;br/&gt;</description><link>http://ellyjuniarty.tumblr.com/post/34158685497</link><guid>http://ellyjuniarty.tumblr.com/post/34158685497</guid><pubDate>Tue, 23 Oct 2012 18:27:14 +0800</pubDate></item><item><title>

How to Deal with Mistakes and Failures in Life

Remind...</title><description>&lt;img src="http://25.media.tumblr.com/tumblr_m643pxymnH1qavz34o1_400.jpg"/&gt;&lt;br/&gt;&lt;br/&gt;&lt;blockquote&gt;

&lt;p&gt;&lt;em&gt;&lt;strong&gt;How to Deal with Mistakes and Failures in Life&lt;/strong&gt;&lt;/em&gt;&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;/blockquote&gt;
&lt;div class="MsoNormal"&gt;&lt;em&gt;Remind yourself that:&lt;/em&gt;&lt;/div&gt;
&lt;div class="MsoNormal"&gt;&lt;/div&gt;
&lt;div class="MsoListParagraphCxSpFirst"&gt;1.    &lt;strong&gt;This is not the end. You are going to survive.&lt;/strong&gt;  There’s no point in pretending that life is always great. Sometimes we trip and fall, or we make terrible mistakes. Allow yourself to heal, then get up and start again. Take one or two small steps … and know you’re&lt;em&gt; going&lt;/em&gt; to survive!&lt;/div&gt;
&lt;div class="MsoListParagraphCxSpMiddle"&gt;2.    &lt;strong&gt;Everybody makes mistakes along the way.&lt;/strong&gt; You’re only a failure if you give up and don’t try. Accept that you are human … and move on with your life.&lt;/div&gt;
&lt;div class="MsoListParagraphCxSpMiddle"&gt;3.    &lt;strong&gt;Positive thinking leads to positive results.&lt;/strong&gt; If you think you can succeed then there’s a good chance that you will. The mind is very powerful – we create what we believe.&lt;/div&gt;
&lt;div class="MsoListParagraphCxSpMiddle"&gt;4.    &lt;strong&gt;Success is closer than you think when you are down.&lt;/strong&gt; Mistakes can be our teachers; they don’t mean all is lost. In fact, you’re one step closer to getting what you want.  &lt;/div&gt;
&lt;div class="MsoListParagraphCxSpMiddle"&gt;5.    &lt;strong&gt;You are not your mistakes.&lt;/strong&gt; Don’t fall into the trap of defining who you are by different things you do – or by your failures and mistakes.&lt;/div&gt;
&lt;div class="MsoListParagraphCxSpMiddle"&gt;6.    &lt;strong&gt;There are very few mistakes which are truly devastating.&lt;/strong&gt; Mistakes are merely setbacks – a few clouds in the sky. Get up, keep pushing forwards and move towards your dreams.&lt;/div&gt;
&lt;div class="MsoListParagraphCxSpMiddle"&gt;7.    &lt;strong&gt;A failure is sometimes a blessing in disguise.&lt;/strong&gt; Not getting what you want can sometimes be a stroke of luck. It makes you reconsider and try some different things … And these can often lead to better opportunities.&lt;/div&gt;
&lt;div class="MsoListParagraphCxSpLast"&gt;8.    &lt;strong&gt;You have the power to determine your own happiness.&lt;/strong&gt; – You can hold onto the pain and the failures of the past – or you can choose to let them go and fix your eyes on what’s ahead. It’s up to you to choose what will become your destiny.&lt;/div&gt;</description><link>http://ellyjuniarty.tumblr.com/post/33300279289</link><guid>http://ellyjuniarty.tumblr.com/post/33300279289</guid><pubDate>Wed, 10 Oct 2012 23:17:55 +0800</pubDate></item><item><title>Photo</title><description>&lt;img src="http://24.media.tumblr.com/tumblr_m7t173ezJm1rz9112o1_500.jpg"/&gt;&lt;br/&gt;&lt;br/&gt;</description><link>http://ellyjuniarty.tumblr.com/post/30230655444</link><guid>http://ellyjuniarty.tumblr.com/post/30230655444</guid><pubDate>Sun, 26 Aug 2012 15:50:08 +0800</pubDate></item><item><title>Photo</title><description>&lt;img src="http://24.media.tumblr.com/tumblr_m8gaqypP0C1rovud9o1_500.png"/&gt;&lt;br/&gt;&lt;br/&gt;</description><link>http://ellyjuniarty.tumblr.com/post/30230609519</link><guid>http://ellyjuniarty.tumblr.com/post/30230609519</guid><pubDate>Sun, 26 Aug 2012 15:48:38 +0800</pubDate></item><item><title>Photo</title><description>&lt;img src="http://24.media.tumblr.com/tumblr_m8tqehzCLO1rc9ei5o1_500.jpg"/&gt;&lt;br/&gt;&lt;br/&gt;</description><link>http://ellyjuniarty.tumblr.com/post/30230512143</link><guid>http://ellyjuniarty.tumblr.com/post/30230512143</guid><pubDate>Sun, 26 Aug 2012 15:45:36 +0800</pubDate></item><item><title>this—too—shall—pass:

on the list of my...</title><description>&lt;img src="http://25.media.tumblr.com/tumblr_m1nmjz1LJu1qlvproo1_r1_250.gif"/&gt;&lt;br/&gt; &lt;br/&gt;&lt;img src="http://24.media.tumblr.com/tumblr_m1nmjz1LJu1qlvproo2_250.gif"/&gt;&lt;br/&gt; &lt;br/&gt;&lt;img src="http://24.media.tumblr.com/tumblr_m1nmjz1LJu1qlvproo3_250.gif"/&gt;&lt;br/&gt; &lt;br/&gt;&lt;img src="http://24.media.tumblr.com/tumblr_m1nmjz1LJu1qlvproo4_250.gif"/&gt;&lt;br/&gt; &lt;br/&gt;&lt;img src="http://24.media.tumblr.com/tumblr_m1nmjz1LJu1qlvproo5_r1_250.gif"/&gt;&lt;br/&gt; &lt;br/&gt;&lt;img src="http://24.media.tumblr.com/tumblr_m1nmjz1LJu1qlvproo6_250.gif"/&gt;&lt;br/&gt; &lt;br/&gt;&lt;img src="http://25.media.tumblr.com/tumblr_m1nmjz1LJu1qlvproo7_250.gif"/&gt;&lt;br/&gt; &lt;br/&gt;&lt;img src="http://24.media.tumblr.com/tumblr_m1nmjz1LJu1qlvproo8_r2_250.gif"/&gt;&lt;br/&gt; &lt;br/&gt;&lt;img src="http://24.media.tumblr.com/tumblr_m1nmjz1LJu1qlvproo9_r2_250.gif"/&gt;&lt;br/&gt; &lt;br/&gt;&lt;p&gt;&lt;a class="tumblr_blog" href="http://this--too--shall--pass.tumblr.com/post/30221087266/on-the-list-of-my-favorite-people-on-the-entire"&gt;this—too—shall—pass&lt;/a&gt;:&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;blockquote&gt;
&lt;p&gt;on the list of my favorite people on the entire planet, she’s at the top.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;/blockquote&gt;</description><link>http://ellyjuniarty.tumblr.com/post/30225821694</link><guid>http://ellyjuniarty.tumblr.com/post/30225821694</guid><pubDate>Sun, 26 Aug 2012 13:48:50 +0800</pubDate></item><item><title>myminimalart:

Goodbye Neil Armstrong.
1930 - 2012
(c)...</title><description>&lt;img src="http://25.media.tumblr.com/tumblr_m9ck0dRvud1ruf3ijo1_500.jpg"/&gt;&lt;br/&gt;&lt;br/&gt;&lt;p&gt;&lt;a class="tumblr_blog" href="http://myminimalart.tumblr.com/post/30224126418/goodbye-neil-armstrong-1930-2012-c"&gt;myminimalart&lt;/a&gt;:&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;blockquote&gt;
&lt;p&gt;&lt;strong&gt;Goodbye Neil Armstrong.&lt;/strong&gt;&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;&lt;em&gt;1930 - 2012&lt;/em&gt;&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;&lt;a href="http://myminimalart.tumblr.com/post/27343734054/well-thats-brilliant-please-do-a-tarantino-movie-like"&gt;(c) &lt;/a&gt;&lt;a href="http://myminimalart.tumblr.com/" target="_self"&gt;0011101000110011&lt;/a&gt;&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;/blockquote&gt;</description><link>http://ellyjuniarty.tumblr.com/post/30225285749</link><guid>http://ellyjuniarty.tumblr.com/post/30225285749</guid><pubDate>Sun, 26 Aug 2012 13:38:20 +0800</pubDate></item><item><title>fafxks:

❤
</title><description>&lt;img src="http://25.media.tumblr.com/tumblr_m99to9uuP11qeyeoco1_400.gif"/&gt;&lt;br/&gt;&lt;br/&gt;&lt;p&gt;&lt;a class="tumblr_blog" href="http://fafxks.tumblr.com/post/30111907625"&gt;fafxks&lt;/a&gt;:&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;blockquote&gt;
&lt;p&gt;❤&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;/blockquote&gt;</description><link>http://ellyjuniarty.tumblr.com/post/30112232624</link><guid>http://ellyjuniarty.tumblr.com/post/30112232624</guid><pubDate>Sat, 25 Aug 2012 01:59:35 +0800</pubDate></item><item><title>TWG macaron. (Taken with Instagram)</title><description>&lt;img src="http://25.media.tumblr.com/tumblr_m8r0m3g6wZ1qavz34o1_500.jpg"/&gt;&lt;br/&gt;&lt;br/&gt;&lt;p&gt;TWG macaron. (Taken with &lt;a href="http://instagram.com"&gt;Instagram&lt;/a&gt;)&lt;/p&gt;</description><link>http://ellyjuniarty.tumblr.com/post/29408142017</link><guid>http://ellyjuniarty.tumblr.com/post/29408142017</guid><pubDate>Tue, 14 Aug 2012 22:08:26 +0800</pubDate></item><item><title>Photo</title><description>&lt;img src="http://25.media.tumblr.com/tumblr_m7xuvoIJJw1r0o7uao1_500.gif"/&gt;&lt;br/&gt;&lt;br/&gt;</description><link>http://ellyjuniarty.tumblr.com/post/28528219255</link><guid>http://ellyjuniarty.tumblr.com/post/28528219255</guid><pubDate>Thu, 02 Aug 2012 10:32:30 +0800</pubDate></item><item><title>damn that body.</title><description>&lt;img src="http://24.media.tumblr.com/tumblr_m7z6l6ziD81qfm87to1_500.jpg"/&gt;&lt;br/&gt;&lt;br/&gt;&lt;p&gt;damn that body.&lt;/p&gt;</description><link>http://ellyjuniarty.tumblr.com/post/28337382935</link><guid>http://ellyjuniarty.tumblr.com/post/28337382935</guid><pubDate>Mon, 30 Jul 2012 22:47:16 +0800</pubDate></item><item><title>Photo</title><description>&lt;img src="http://25.media.tumblr.com/tumblr_m7wpj3CTXy1qavz34o1_500.jpg"/&gt;&lt;br/&gt;&lt;br/&gt;</description><link>http://ellyjuniarty.tumblr.com/post/28247729094</link><guid>http://ellyjuniarty.tumblr.com/post/28247729094</guid><pubDate>Sun, 29 Jul 2012 13:21:03 +0800</pubDate></item><item><title>Photo</title><description>&lt;img src="http://25.media.tumblr.com/tumblr_m1g6i7NeIE1qg29j9o1_500.jpg"/&gt;&lt;br/&gt;&lt;br/&gt;</description><link>http://ellyjuniarty.tumblr.com/post/27961292749</link><guid>http://ellyjuniarty.tumblr.com/post/27961292749</guid><pubDate>Wed, 25 Jul 2012 12:32:43 +0800</pubDate></item><item><title>
8 Tools for Managing your Anger

1. Learn to recognize when you...</title><description>&lt;img src="http://24.media.tumblr.com/tumblr_m644zrtXGg1qavz34o1_400.gif"/&gt;&lt;br/&gt;&lt;br/&gt;&lt;blockquote&gt;
&lt;h3 class="post-title entry-title"&gt;8 Tools for Managing your Anger&lt;/h3&gt;
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&lt;p&gt;&lt;span&gt;1. Learn to recognize when you are feeling stressed – This will help you to reduce your stress before it is expressed as destructive anger.&lt;/span&gt;&lt;br/&gt;&lt;span&gt;2. Work on developing your empathy – Trying to see things from another’s perspective often helps to dissipate intense emotions.&lt;/span&gt;&lt;br/&gt;&lt;span&gt;3. Decide to respond instead of react – Although the way we react often feels automatic, we can actually choose how we’ll think, feel and respond. This is empowering, and the road to freedom.&lt;/span&gt;&lt;br/&gt;&lt;span&gt;4. Change your self talk - Listen to the conversation in your head and learn to modify extreme, unbalanced thoughts. Look for exceptions to “you always” thinking, and reframe “you must” or “you should” demands. &lt;/span&gt;&lt;br/&gt;&lt;span&gt;5. Learn to be assertive – Honest and open communication about your wishes, needs and preferences can stop resentment building – so it doesn’t turn to anger.&lt;/span&gt;&lt;br/&gt;&lt;span&gt;6. Adjust your expectations – Often anger is triggered by a difference between our expectations and what we actually get. Thus, sometimes it is better to adjust our expectations so they’re more in line with reality.&lt;/span&gt;&lt;br/&gt;&lt;span&gt;7. Forgiving doesn’t also mean forgetting – Although it is healthy to sometimes let things go, that doesn’t mean we weren’t hurt, upset or offended. The difference is we’re choosing to move on with our lives, and we’re not being controlled by external events.&lt;/span&gt;&lt;br/&gt;&lt;span&gt;8. Remove yourself from the situation – Retreating temporarily or “taking time-out” provides some space to think about the “best thing to do”. Thus you maintain control of yourself and circumstances.&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/p&gt;</description><link>http://ellyjuniarty.tumblr.com/post/27813272435</link><guid>http://ellyjuniarty.tumblr.com/post/27813272435</guid><pubDate>Mon, 23 Jul 2012 12:30:02 +0800</pubDate><category>beautiful goodbye</category></item></channel></rss>
